The Signs Your Marriage Is Likely to End in Divorce

Although the statistics for marriage are not always positive, no one enters wedded bliss expecting it to fail. But unfortunately, things happen, and many couples wonder at some point if their marriage could be on the brink of divorce.

All relationships take work. And it could be time to consider couples counseling to help communication. But if you’ve already been down that road or you’re noticing some major red flags, your marriage could be in real trouble.

Here are a few signs your marriage is likely to end in divorce.

1. One of you has an addiction

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Addiction to alcohol and drugs can change a marriage. | Tsuguliev/Getty Images

One of the biggest challenges any couple can face is addiction. When alcohol, drugs, or gambling is involved — and when they begin to take precedence over the spouse — the marriage becomes strained. There’s bound to be some resentment, and there are usually secrets involved. Seek professional help, and take care of yourself in the process.

2. You’re avoiding your spouse

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If you feel the need to avoid your spouse, it could be a red flag. | Nd3000/iStock/Getty Images

You may not even realize you’re doing this, but finding reasons to avoid your partner is a troubling sign. If you’re constantly prioritizing your friends over your marriage, or if you make excuses not to be home with your spouse, you could be in danger of divorce.

3. You have financial problems or secrets

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Money issues and secrets can lead to dark moments in a marriage. | Joe Raedle/Getty Images

Many studies have found a correlation between financial disagreements and divorce. If you’re hiding a lot of debt from your spouse, you’ve made some reckless decisions with your money, or if you’re constantly stressed over the state of your finances, it’s not a good sign.

4. Your sex life is dull or non-existent

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If you’re having marriage problems, they will eventually catch up with you in the bedroom. | Ridofranz/iStock/Getty Images Plus

Passion always ebbs and flows in a relationship, and the stress of daily life can take its toll behind closed doors. But according to one divorce lawyer, Randall Kessler, a lackluster sex life is an indication that divorce is near. Kessler sometimes sees divorcing couples who haven’t had sex in years.

5. You never argue

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Facing your issues head-on can prevent a big meltdown. | FotoCuisinette/iStock/Getty Images

You would think that not arguing with your spouse would be a good thing. But according to Douglas Kepanis, a divorce attorney in New York City, staying silent to keep the peace just leads to built up resentment. If you try to avoid awkward situations with your spouse when you’re upset to keep the peace — or if you keep secrets so you don’t upset your partner — you could end up destroying your marriage.

6. You feel lonely

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You deserve space and privacy, but you shouldn’t feel lonely. | Katarzyna Bialasiewicz/iStock/Getty Images

Your partner is supposed to be your friend and your confidant. So if you’re feeling lonely or isolated, it’s indicative of major marital woes. If you’ve been feeling lonely, or if you feel like your spouse is withdrawing from you, speak up.

7. One or both of you is refusing to try

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It takes two people to make a marriage fully work. | CreativaImages/iStock/Getty Images

Marriages have recovered from all kinds of issues, and there’s very little that can’t be fixed if both people in the marriage are willing to try. But if one of you has given up, the marriage is in serious trouble. Problems won’t go away on their own, and one person cannot make all of the effort.

8. Your husband doesn’t work full time

Does your husband spend too much time at home instead of working? | iStock/Getty Images

Who’s the breadwinner in your household? Interestingly, a Harvard study finds that couples in a heterosexual marriage were more likely to get divorced if the husband didn’t have a full-time job. Wives’ employment status didn’t significantly affect the results.

9. You waited too long

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Though few people would agree there is a perfect age to get married, there is an ideal age range to decrease your chances of divorce. According to research, getting married between ages 25 and 32 is the best time. Nicholas H. Wolfinger, a psychologist, explains one possible reason is the people who wait until their mid-30s may not be predisposed to marriage. Another possible reason is these people may already feel comfortable being single, and the marriage life proves to be too much of a change.

What you can do

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Making the marriage work is possible with the right resources and effort. | AntonioGuillem/iStock/Getty Images

While realizing your marriage isn’t working is a horrible feeling, it doesn’t always mean that it’s over. If you’re both willing to work on things, hope is not lost. Spend some quality time together and reflect on why you fell in love in the first place. Talk to each other, listen to each other, and find small ways to connect again. And never be afraid to go to counseling together.

Additional reporting by Eric McWhinnie.

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